Dressing Up As A Transvestite

March 19th, 2011

Dressing up as a transvestite is something that should not be confused with crossdressing. While these are basically the same, they are very different when it comes to the actual specifics of it. Being able to know the difference of the two is something that is very important to both crossdressers and transvestites.

Difference
The difference between a transvestite and a crossdresser is a transvestite sees this as an actual gender change. This means that they will take on the mannerisms and the characteristics of the gender that they are dressing like. A crossdresser will simply take on the clothing as the person of the opposite sex and very little else.

What It Means
Dressing up as a transvestite is something that is often done because the person that is dressing up does not feel comfortable as the gender that they are currently. They will typically want to get their gender changed through surgery. Dressing up as a transvestite is something that is typically the first step towards changing their gender entirely.

Passing
A lot of transvestites are worried about “passing” this is something that is very important to them. They will want to be able to be accepted in public as the gender that they are dressing up to be. A crossdresser will typically not go out of their way to look like the gender that they are dressing up as as they are doing it more for a fetish as opposed to a specific lifestyle like a transvestite.

Admitting To A Partner That You Like Crossdressing

February 17th, 2011

Admitting to a partner that you like crossdressing is something that may be difficult to do. You will find that there are some people that are not going to be okay with this and they may not want to be with you anymore. However, you may be surprised to find out that your partner is okay with this. You never know until you tell them.

Don’t Wait
The longer that you crossdress behind your partner’s back, the more difficult it will be for them to be able to be supportive and understanding. If you are able to tell a person early on in the relationship then they can make a decision whether or not they wish to continue the relationship. Knowing sooner rather than later is usually better for you both.

Finding Out The Hard Way
The worst way for your partner to find out is for you to simply show them. You will need to make sure that you can sit them down and talk to them about it. Most people will be a lot more susceptible to being talked through it as opposed to surprised and shown without warning.

Explain
You are going to need to be ready to do some explaining whenever you tell your partner that you are crossdressing. They will be confused as to whether or not you are also gay or if you simply prefer to wear clothing of people of the opposite sex. Make sure that you are ready to answer each and every question truthfully.

Swinging As A Transvestite

January 19th, 2011

Swinging as a transvestite is something that can be a difficult transition. You will find that this is something that a lot of swingers will not be judgmental of. Make sure that you are open and honest about your sexual orientation. Trying to hide things from people that you will be having sex with is something that is only going to cause problems.

Pre Op
If you happen to be a transvestite in the pre op stages of your transition then you will need to make people aware of this before you begin any sexual relations with any of them. They will often not have any issues with what your preferred gender is as long as you let them know what you wish to do beforehand.

Post Op
If you happen to be a transvestite that is in the post op stages of your transition then you will more than likely not need to say very much. If your body functions the way that the gender you wish to be, then your fellow swingers do not need to know at first. If you find yourself getting especially close to somebody then it may be a good idea to let them know.

Open Swingers
It is usually a good idea to try to find swingers that are going to be open of your situation. There are more than likely going to be some swingers in your area that have no issues with transvestites and will not mind you joining in with them during meetings or in clubs.

STD’s and Other Nasties – Being Safe

December 16th, 2010

There are hundreds of diseases that are transmitted through sexual activity. It can put a damper on any fun when you stop to think about it. However, it’s necessary that you understand how serious this can be, and what you can do to prevent it.

Always Use Condoms

Condoms should always be used, even in the beginning of a monogamous relationship. Until you know for certain that you can trust your partner not to stray, and you have doctors proof that you are both clean, you should never take the chance. Condoms are more than 99% effective when used properly. Using them properly is also key. Take some time to learn how to actually put them on, and find the right size. Condoms should also be used for any oral sex as well, since there are several STDs that can be contracted through oral sex.

Cross Contamination

Another way to get a nasty infection is to go from anal to vaginal, or anal or to oral sex. Never use any toy in your vagina that has been used for anal purposes. If you aren’t working with toys, be sure to change the condom before switching activities. It’s also important that you use other forms of protection as well. Dental dams are great for oral and anal/oral sex as they prevent the transmission of disease. If this is daunting, find flavored dams. It will take some time to get used to, but it can save you from an embarrassing doctors visit later.

Implications

Some STDs are just a nuisance, while others will change, and possibly shorten your life. Herpes will stay with you forever, and explaining this to future partners is embarrassing, and will likely end up with you getting fewer dates. AIDS is treatable, but not curable. You can be charged with assault or attempted murder in some states if you have this and knowingly spread it.

All there is to know about crossdressing

November 6th, 2010

Crossdressing is something that has been around a lot longer than most people think. There are instances of cross dressing dating as far back as history allows. Many people frown upon cross dressing because they do not understand it. It is basically the need for a person of one sex to want to dress in the same clothing as people of the opposite sex. It does not always mean that that person is gay or that they want to be a different gender. Whatever their reason, cross dressing is something that is more common than a lot of people think.

Small Steps

A lot of people will start small whenever they begin to experiment with cross dressing. Men will like to wear women’s undergarments or vice versa. A lot of children will experiment with cross dressing at a very early age. People that tend to cross dress as adults were usually unhappy wearing their own gender’s clothing as small children.

Stereo Types

There are a lot of different stereo types that go along with cross dressing. Most people assume that those that cross dress are homosexuals that wish to change their gender entirely. This is not always the case. Some people wish to experiment with cross dressing simply to explore their identity and truly find themselves. When most people think of cross dressing they think of men dressed as women. Women tend to dress as men just as often, it is usually just not as frowned upon in modern society, also different parts of the country have different attitudes, Edinburgh Swingers are known to have an active social scene where many crossdress.

Best Anal Sex Advice

October 14th, 2010

Anal sex can be frightening for some at first. It is really enjoyable though when it’s done correctly. This isn’t an act that people can just one day decide to try. It does take preparation and some common sense in order to be fun. Here’s some of the best advice you can find regarding anal sex.

Practice First

It’s not a bad idea to start this solo before introducing a partner. This will allow you to take your time and find what you do and don’t enjoy. It will also acclimate you to the feelings, which can be a little strange at first.

Understand Safety

Just like with any sexual act, safety should be taken in to consideration. Aside from the normal safety stuff with condoms, there are a few additional things you should know about anal sex. Unlike vaginal sex, anal sex won’t produce any natural lubrication. You need to supplement with a good quality lube, and replenish this often. You also need to pay close attention to your body. It’s easy to tear the tissue inside the anus without feeling pain immediately. It’s vital that your partner goes slow and listens to you. Also know that anything that has been used in that area should not then be used near the vagina or mouth. Even if you don’t see fecal matter contaminating such as harmful bacteria can still be present.

Don’t Force It

Anal sex in real life is nothing like anal sex in porn. You can’t force anything in to the anus without causing discomfort, and possibly damage. Instead, you should slowly work and allow the anus to open naturally. Never force it.

Swinging as a Crossdresser

October 7th, 2010

If you are swinging as a crossdresser then you may find that it is a bit more difficult for you starting out. These are 2 very important things that you are going to have to be comfortable with before you can get truly established on the scene of both. Most swingers clubs will not care if somebody comes in dressed as the opposite sex. However, some private swinger’s meetings may not think very highly of a cross dresser for whatever reason. It is important that you are able to be accepted in both communities.

Cross Dressing

If you are a cross dresser then it is a good idea to let those close to you in the swinger’s circle know. This way, should they invite you to any of swinger’s meetings they will be able to let others know ahead of time. Many swingers do not pass any judgment on those that wish to cross dress. However, judgment can be found anywhere and there may be some people that you run into in swinger’s clubs, Irish Swingers Parties or meetings that do not approve.

Swinging

Most of the time, cross dressing is not something that will be an issue with swingers. Most of the time, you will not have your clothes on for long periods of time so it is not something that will come up. A lot of swingers are completely open minded when it comes to other things that can bring sexual satisfaction to other people. Just make sure that you as well as those around you feel comfortable so that you can all have a good time.